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Grief & Loss

Accepting the pain of loss when someone dies is hard and it takes time for life to grow around grief.
 
Language is important for children - follow the child’s lead, use simple, age-appropriate words. It is very Important to model use of concrete language and avoidance of euphemisms: replace ‘passing away’ with ‘dying’ – generally use ‘dead’ or ‘died’ rather than ‘gone’ or loss’.
 
Find ways of remembering the good things.
We have to find a place in mind for the person who has died; that’s part of the bereavement process:
  • We may have grown in some way as a result
  • If the relationship had positive elements that can be the best memorial
 
In some relationships there has been a lot of unhappiness, e.g. in abusive relationships, here bereavement is more complex.  Finding a place for understanding oneself in relation to the other person’s behaviours, is not simple. It requires further support/counselling to work through.
 

Helpful websites

 https://www.childbereavementuk.org/  - has information on how to tell children when someone is not expected to live and when someone has died suddenly. Helpline, online chat, email and information around loss.

www.hopeagain.org.uk - The support service for young people offered by Cruse.

www.winstonswish.org - Support for bereaved children, young people, their families, and the professionals who support them.

www.themix.org.uk - Support for under 25s with a range of challenging issues.

www.lcgl.org.uk Lincolnshire Centre for Grief and Loss. Website with further support guides and advice.